We recently received this question: 
“I haven’t seen you post messages but I’m just really confused and I don’t know who to talk to. I’m a sixteen year old cis girl living in ireland. I only feel comfortable kissing guys like I can’t imagine having sex with a guy or giving head or getting eaten out by a guy. Even though I really can’t imagine being in a relationship with a girl I feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with a girl. I’d really like to experiment to but I feel like I can’t because people will judge me”
Thank you for reaching out!
As we grow up, we begin having different types of feelings. One of these feelings is being attracted to someone, whether they are of the same sex or another sex. It’s OK to have these feelings.
Being worried about judgment is normal too. Do you have a trusted friend, adult, family member, or counselor you can talk to for support? Do you know of any LGBT support groups in your area?
We often feel best when we do what seems right for us. There may be some people who judge you, but hopefully there will be others who support you! If you are ever facing harassment or threats of violence make sure to tell a trusted adult right away. This resource might be helpful:  http://youthworkireland.ie/what-we-do/lgbt-youth-projects
And if you are not ready to have sex with someone of any sex, you have the right to abstain from sex or practice safer sex. A person should be emotionally and mentally ready to have sex, not just physically. If someone wants to express their affection towards their partner, they can do it in other ways such as kissing, hugging, holding hands, and hanging out together. 

We recently received this question:

“I haven’t seen you post messages but I’m just really confused and I don’t know who to talk to. I’m a sixteen year old cis girl living in ireland. I only feel comfortable kissing guys like I can’t imagine having sex with a guy or giving head or getting eaten out by a guy. Even though I really can’t imagine being in a relationship with a girl I feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with a girl. I’d really like to experiment to but I feel like I can’t because people will judge me”

Thank you for reaching out!

As we grow up, we begin having different types of feelings. One of these feelings is being attracted to someone, whether they are of the same sex or another sex. It’s OK to have these feelings.

Being worried about judgment is normal too. Do you have a trusted friend, adult, family member, or counselor you can talk to for support? Do you know of any LGBT support groups in your area?

We often feel best when we do what seems right for us. There may be some people who judge you, but hopefully there will be others who support you! If you are ever facing harassment or threats of violence make sure to tell a trusted adult right away. This resource might be helpful:  http://youthworkireland.ie/what-we-do/lgbt-youth-projects

And if you are not ready to have sex with someone of any sex, you have the right to abstain from sex or practice safer sex. A person should be emotionally and mentally ready to have sex, not just physically. If someone wants to express their affection towards their partner, they can do it in other ways such as kissing, hugging, holding hands, and hanging out together. 

Congratulations to Serena Williams on winning the US Open last week, her 18th Grand Slam tournament win! 

Beats by Dre recently released a commercial starring Serena. In the clip we see Serena write her goals to be the #1 player in the world and win the US open, both things she has achieved many times! 

Setting goals for yourself helps you to think about what you want to accomplish in life and what you need to do to achieve those goals. We also see Serena putting in the effort it takes to be the #1 player in the world! 

As the line from the song says "The best thing you can do and be is you"- Sunni Paterson 

H/T to http://colorlines.com/ for the video. 

Hey Everyone! Happy Friday! Today we answer the question: ”What are values?” 
Values are ideas or beliefs that really matter to us. They help us make choices based on what we believe is right. Thinking about what your values are can help you make decisions that match your beliefs.
When it comes to sexuality, some questions that have to do with a person’s values are:
When should someone have sex?
Does someone want to start a family, if yes, when?
What should someone do to protect their health?
 These questions are best answered for ourselves.
In order to make healthy decisions we need to know our values. Talking with a trusted adult can help us think through and understand our values.
Remember, everyone has their own values and beliefs. Sometimes people may disagree about what is right, but it is still important to respect people’s decisions. 

Hey Everyone! Happy Friday! Today we answer the question: ”What are values?”

Values are ideas or beliefs that really matter to us. They help us make choices based on what we believe is right. Thinking about what your values are can help you make decisions that match your beliefs.

When it comes to sexuality, some questions that have to do with a person’s values are:

  • When should someone have sex?
  • Does someone want to start a family, if yes, when?
  • What should someone do to protect their health?

 These questions are best answered for ourselves.

In order to make healthy decisions we need to know our values. Talking with a trusted adult can help us think through and understand our values.

Remember, everyone has their own values and beliefs. Sometimes people may disagree about what is right, but it is still important to respect people’s decisions. 

We recently received this question: 
“I have a bit of a problem. So, I had a tampon in, and when I pulled the string I heard a bit of a squeaky/rippy noise and the tampon didn’t look quite right. I had to put another in cause I was running late and could find any pads, and I was wondering if it’s possible the tampon ripped? If so, what do I do? (I use Kotex Sleek regular with a full sized applicator, if that’s important)”
We can understand why you would be concerned!
There may be a couple of explanations for this:
1. Tampons are made of cotton, so it is possible for them to rip or tear. You can check the vagina for any pieces of the tampon by using your fingers.
If you are really worried you can go to a health center where a doctor can take a look in the vagina to make sure no pieces were left behind. If you notice any unusual smell, discharge, or discomfort, you should go to a health center.
 2.  Tampons can also absorb vaginal fluids making the vaginal canal dry. It’s possible that this was just a noise that the tampon made coming out of the vagina.
In the future, pulling tampons out slowly and gently can help prevent the tampon from tearing. 

We recently received this question:

“I have a bit of a problem. So, I had a tampon in, and when I pulled the string I heard a bit of a squeaky/rippy noise and the tampon didn’t look quite right. I had to put another in cause I was running late and could find any pads, and I was wondering if it’s possible the tampon ripped? If so, what do I do? (I use Kotex Sleek regular with a full sized applicator, if that’s important)”

We can understand why you would be concerned!

There may be a couple of explanations for this:

1. Tampons are made of cotton, so it is possible for them to rip or tear. You can check the vagina for any pieces of the tampon by using your fingers.

If you are really worried you can go to a health center where a doctor can take a look in the vagina to make sure no pieces were left behind. If you notice any unusual smell, discharge, or discomfort, you should go to a health center.

 2.  Tampons can also absorb vaginal fluids making the vaginal canal dry. It’s possible that this was just a noise that the tampon made coming out of the vagina.

In the future, pulling tampons out slowly and gently can help prevent the tampon from tearing. 

We recently received this question about birth control and antibiotics:
“I took the antibiotic bactrim during my period week of my birth control pills but I just had unprotected sex yesterday and today I start back up on my horomone pills will I still be protected from pregnancy since I took the antibiotics on the hormone free week or did that reduce the effectiveness of the pills prior? I know that they say to use a backup method for the week you use antibiotics & the following week while on bc pills but does that work the same if your on the horomone free week?”
Thanks for getting in contact with us!
While some antibiotics can make the pill less effective, others do not. In order to determine whether the antibiotics you took may interfere with your birth control pills, it is best to talk to your health care provider.
In terms of when you took the antibiotics, it is also best to discuss that with your health care provider to find out what they recommend. Some pills contain hormones in all 4 weeks, while some only contain hormones for 3 out of the 4 weeks.
Many people call Planned Parenthood’s call center to ask questions about their birth control. They can help connect you with a provider who can offer more specific information to answer your question. The number is 1-800-230-PLAN. 

We recently received this question about birth control and antibiotics:

“I took the antibiotic bactrim during my period week of my birth control pills but I just had unprotected sex yesterday and today I start back up on my horomone pills will I still be protected from pregnancy since I took the antibiotics on the hormone free week or did that reduce the effectiveness of the pills prior? I know that they say to use a backup method for the week you use antibiotics & the following week while on bc pills but does that work the same if your on the horomone free week?”

Thanks for getting in contact with us!

While some antibiotics can make the pill less effective, others do not. In order to determine whether the antibiotics you took may interfere with your birth control pills, it is best to talk to your health care provider.

In terms of when you took the antibiotics, it is also best to discuss that with your health care provider to find out what they recommend. Some pills contain hormones in all 4 weeks, while some only contain hormones for 3 out of the 4 weeks.

Many people call Planned Parenthood’s call center to ask questions about their birth control. They can help connect you with a provider who can offer more specific information to answer your question. The number is 1-800-230-PLAN. 

In today’s Fact Friday we answer this question we received about masturbation: 
“Can you get an STD/STI from masturbating? I’ve never had any sexual contact with anybody, I haven’t even kissed anyone..but I do masturbate and was wondering if I should be worried about STDs/STIs.´
Masturbating is touching one’s self for sexual pleasure. It doesn’t cause STDs or pregnancy. One person must have an STD to pass it on to their partner through oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse or genital to genital contact (skin to skin).
As you can see from the info above, many women and men of all different ages masturbate.

In today’s Fact Friday we answer this question we received about masturbation: 

“Can you get an STD/STI from masturbating? I’ve never had any sexual contact with anybody, I haven’t even kissed anyone..but I do masturbate and was wondering if I should be worried about STDs/STIs.´

Masturbating is touching one’s self for sexual pleasure. It doesn’t cause STDs or pregnancy. One person must have an STD to pass it on to their partner through oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse or genital to genital contact (skin to skin).

As you can see from the info above, many women and men of all different ages masturbate.