In today’s Fact Friday we will answer the question “What is virginity?”
Virginity can mean different things to different people. We’ve heard a lot of people think virginity means that someone has not had vaginal sex. But why is vaginal sex the only sex that matters when it comes to virginity? Even if someone has other types of sex, like oral or anal sex, they may choose to never have vaginal sex. Does that mean they are virgins forever? No, of course not. This is because virginity is an idea, not a biological fact.
There is nothing about our bodies that can “prove” whether or not someone has had vaginal, oral, or anal sex. Some people think the hymen is a test of virginity. This is not true for a couple of reasons.
1) The hymen is not a solid piece of skin that stretches across the vaginal canal, The hymen is actually a round piece of skin that slightly extends from the vaginal walls, with an opening in the middle.
2) Not everyone is born with a hymen, or it stretches before that person has any sexual activity.
A word that might be more helpful is abstinence. Abstinence means someone is making the conscious decision not to have oral, vaginal, or anal intercourse. Abstinence is the only 100% effective method to prevent pregnancy and the best method to prevent STDs. And someone can choose to be abstinent even if they have had sex before. Anytime someone chooses not to have sex, they have chosen to be abstinent.